Thursday, April 14, 2011

Allowing What Is

As human beings, we are often under the impression it is our job to change the world. We see someone doing something ineffectively and we become hellbent on helping to resolve the issue. Many of us work effortlessly in the attempt to "fix it". Often we become disappointed or frustrated because our efforts don't seem to yield the results we were looking for. Maybe it isn't a problem with the actions as much as a problem with the thoughts. When we see a problem, we automatically assume something is wrong, but is it really? My current philosophy is to assume all is right with the world--to allow what is to exist in its perfection.

Perfection? Wars, genocide, greed, poverty, betrayal, etc. are perfection? My simple answer is "Yes!" How can I view them as perfect? I don't believe the purpose of life is to stand around worshipping a just, all-powerful (albeit loving) God. (Do you really think God is so into Himself he needs to be constantly worshipped and adored? Not a trait I particularly like in humans!) I believe our goal as humans is to learn and grow. Problems, be they big or small, are the vehicles we use to do this. Think about it. Where has the most growth occurred in your life? Was it when things were sailing smoothly along or when the storms of life threatened to overwhelm you?

Problems exist to enable our development. When we try to fix another's problem ourselves, we are limiting their opportunity for growth. Often, we become frustrated because the Universe knows better and continues the problem until the person it is designed to help learns the lesson. Sometimes, our interference in the process will even prolong the problem because we get in the way of what the other person is trying to learn! (Hence our frustration!)

For example, look at the issue of codependency and the alcoholic. The alcoholic comes home drunk, gets sick all over themselves and passes out on the floor. If another is codependent, he/she will clean up the mess and put the drunk to bed. The alcoholic will wake up in the morning and not realize anything bad has happened. Consequently, he will go out again and repeat the negative behavior. It is only when the other person allows the alcoholic to wake up dirty and on the floor that the alcoholic begins to become aware of the problem and will work to change it.

People need to fix their own problems. If they ask for your help, help them if you feel so led! Otherwise, focus on your own life purpose and do those things you feel are your calling. Acknowledge that problems are there and they exist for our growth. When we allow all that is to exist--including those things we judge to be "bad"--we allow others to have the growth experiences they came to earth to achieve. When we allow what is, we acknowledge that everything is as it should be. Everything is already in its perfection. Be happy in the knowledge the Universe has everything well in hand.


1 comment:

  1. Very true, also, when we 'help' it can be more about us, than the person we are deeming to help.