Sunday, March 13, 2011

It's All About Choice!

I've spent way too much time afraid of making the wrong choice. I look at the proverbial fork in the road, and I speculate where each path will take me. Quite often I become mired in indecision because I can't see clearly where each choice will lead. I can't tell ahead of time if it is a "good" choice or a "bad" choice. What I am learning is, life is not about making the right decision. It's all about choice!

As humans, we have a tendency to judge everything as right or wrong, good or bad. Usually these judgments are based on how they make us feel. This decision resulted in a new romantic relationship or in making more money. Such outcomes make us feel good, so these are viewed as "good" choices. This decision landed us in jail or hurt us in some way. Consequently, we feel bad so this would be a "bad" choice. Most of us seek out those choices which make us feel good and avoid those that don't.

The thing is, life is not about avoiding pain (even though that's often what we make it out to be). Life is about learning and growth. To do this, we experiment with the elements in our lives, and this process involves a certain amount of pain. Pain is an important part of the learning curve! Without pain, we would not know to stop. Without pain, it is much more difficult to appreciate those things which make us feel joy. It is in the contrast we understand the individual pieces of our world with more clarity.

As we look at our choices through this new understanding, decisions become easier to make. Yes, there may be times we experience pain. It is at those times we can step back and say, "Maybe it's time to make a new choice." There is always a new choice to make. Life is not about right or wrong. It's all about choice!

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