Sunday, May 15, 2011

To Do It Differently

How many times have you looked back at your life and thought, "If I knew then what I know now I would have done that much differently!" Quite often, reflections of the past bring up all the former hurts and failures you've experienced over a lifetime of actions. At times you just want to kick yourself over your own stupidity--for the pain you've caused yourself and others. The truth is, if you had the opportunity to do it differently, you would probably choose to do the same things over again.

Right now I'm sure you're saying, "Is she crazy?!!! There is no way I would choose to do the same things over again!" You understand the great pain involved in many of the choices you've made. There is no way you would purposely re-expose yourself and others to that agony again.

Hear me out. The first fallacy is the idea, "If I knew then what I know now." Life is a learning process--sort of a big experiment. You come up to an obstacle between where you are and where you want to be. You have to figure out the best way to get around it. Often there are many choices to choose from. You pick an option. Sometimes the option works out easily and you go on to the next obstacle. More often, the choice does not take you exactly where you want to go. Sometimes it brings pain. You have to choose again, but this time with the advantage of knowing something that didn't work. The point is, with all choices you gain understanding. If you had all knowledge before you made the choice, there would be absolutely no reason to be living this life on earth. Not knowing is the purpose of life!

The second fallacy is the idea that you would make different choices in order to avoid the pain involved. Think about this though. While no one enjoys pain, would you truly avoid it? Pain can be huge benefit. It is one of the best teaching tools available. Remember those times you have experienced pain. What did you learn? How did you grow? Who have you become as a result of your pain? The answers may surprise you.

This life of duality is meant to be experienced from all sides--good and bad. Ultimately if you had the chance to do things differently you would probably still do the same things because the choices you made were all part of your growth process. The result of this learning is wisdom and understanding. Live with no regret over the choices you have made. As painful as the process may have been, poor choices result in great treasure.  

No comments:

Post a Comment